Theory of maturity

[andysocial]

So, here's my thoughts on maturity and sexuality. Anyone who has let their children grow up to be teenagers, let me know if I'm in the right ballpark here.

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When kids are little, they don't understand sex and it is a non-issue to them.
As pre-teens, they know it's something icky and don't want to get involved, hiding their eyes during kissing scenes on TV and such.
As pubescents and throughout high school, sex is something they know is supposed to be the biggest deal in the world, but it's all supposed to be secret knowledge. Anyone trying to be less than 100% reverent of all things regarding nudity and sexuality is automatically icky. Reverting back to being eight years old.
Between (varies by person) 17 and 24, sex is a great toy and one yearns for quantity and variety over quality. Relationships are secondary to physicality.
Around 25 or 30 (some of my friends ain't there yet), human behavior is realized to be much greater than one particular facet, and then truly adult attitudes form about things in life, to include but not limited to sex and nudity etc.

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So, how's that? Seems to match my observations of people through life, and just a little inspired by the children populating the adult sections of LJ this week...

Comments

[rillifane.livejournal.com]

quantity and variety over quality

I suggest that this is a false dichotomy.

[andysocial]

Perhaps, but I was trying to imply that, at that age, one tends to view sex as a sport, rather than as an expression of love or lust. It can be either, I hardly mean to say that sex is only between two people who love each other very much. It ain't the Cleavers, after all.

But, all too many people of the late-teen/early-twenties ages try to be sexual athletes out of a sense that it is expected of them, when most people I know who have had such experiences tend to regret many of them soon after. They even knew at the time that it wasn't something they wanted, but something that was new and perhaps even assumed.

[rillifane.livejournal.com]

Regreted them? Oh well. It takes all kinds. Personally I like the sentitment of an old Pete Seeger song:

How do I know
My youth is all spent
My get up and go
Has got up and went

But in spite of it all
I just sit here and grin
When I think of the places
My get up has been

Teens!

[moonlover.livejournal.com]

Being the parent of more then one teen (and knowing both them and their friends), that at around 16 they believe they have improved or perfected something that was only for procreation before their amazing generation came along? What is with that? My 18 year old neighbor was telling me that at my age there was nothing I could have ever done that would in anyway surprise him because all of the good stuff are recent discoveries. Like we only had the missionary position. He claimed that sex really wasn't fully explored until the 90's. I don't know about you guys but I think I did my share of exploring and playing before he was old enough to know what it was for.

Good stuff

[andysocial]

I don't know, maybe you could pull out an Egyptian urn or a Greek painting. Plenty of the good stuff being fully explored there, as I recall.

Re: Good stuff

[moonlover.livejournal.com]

I don't have either of those handy but I'm sure he would attribute them to something else. Praising some god or other no doubt. Let's all praise the sex god. Do we have one of those? I'm sure somewhere there must be at least one. I bet you know their names, don't you?